Pretty Woman, Ugly Truth

As this is my first blog post I will let everyone know now, I am a hopeless romantic. I love, love. Weddings, stories of how people met, cute couples on Instagram are all things I love to see. Naturally, romantic comedies is one of my favorite movie genres and are filled with important lessons on love. Some of these lessons are great, filled with hope and compassion. Other lessons however are filled with hidden agendas and warning signs of unhealthy relationships.

The critically acclaimed movie Pretty Woman, stars Julia Roberts as a prostitute who is hired by Richard Gere to spend the week with him, accompanying him to parties and social events. The movie is seen as one of the best romantic comedies and is probably up at the top for many women's favorite movie. This movie shows a different side of relationships, starting with simple interest and transforming into love. However there are some concerning moments in the movie that make me question what love is supposed to look like to the director.

There is a transformation scene where Julia Roberts is getting transformed into this classy looking woman and Richard Gere is buying her many expensive clothes to help her in this transformation. During the scene Julia continues to look towards Richard for his approval, constantly wanting a nod or a smile that seems endearing at first but is really just creepy. There is a sense of control that is unhealthy in the relationship, since Richard's character has the wealth he has the power which is actually kind of scary. A lesson portrayed in the movies is, you need to change who you are to please your man, while also letting him make the decisions in changing you.

Money is the main drive in the beginning of the relationship between the two main characters and is a constant factor in the trials and tribulations in the relationship. While money is a factor, affection is a problem. While the relationship grows both people try and show more affection but it's hard. Everyone knows showing someone you care is scary, there is a sense of uncertainty constantly around you as you try and understand what the other person is feeling. This is another lesson the movie provides, do not be afraid to show affection and open yourself up.

The last disappointing lesson I learned from Pretty Woman is that I need rescuing. In reality I need a partner in my life who is going to make me a better person and grow with me as we continue our lives. I do not need a man to come in flashing money and gifts because I am perfectly fine on my own. I wish the movie gave the audience a more uplifting feeling in the film but it simply doesn't. Instead it gives lessons on warning signs of unhealthy relationships and that money is everything. An entertaining movie but not a good guide to love.